Recently I was paging through a 1962 issue of Ladies’ Home Journal, when I came across this little gem:
Can I Be More Attractive?
Every woman, single or married, wants to be attractive. But her personal charm depends even more on the attributes of her personality than on physical beauty. It is their sum total that constitutes her attractiveness. If you feel that you want to be more attractive, careful consideration of the suggestions below may give you some ideas of where to begin.
Would it Help if I:
- Lost (or gained) a few pounds?
- Improved my posture, walked more gracefully?
- Saw a dermatologist about my skin?
- Planned for more rest and sleep?
- Cultivated a more pleasing voice?
- Took better care of my health?
- Paid more attention to personal grooming?
- Dyed my hair or changed its styling?
- Advised with a specialist on cosmetics?
- Learned to dance or play bridge?
- Became more tolerant and less aggressive?
- Showed greater appreciation of my friends?
- Read more and could talk more freely?
- Praised more, and criticized less?
Minimizing any physical defects and improving your general appearance should be your first concern, since anything that increases your self-confidence is constructive. But your ability to accept and understand your associates, to adapt to them and win their approval and liking, is the best measure of your attractiveness.
My first thought on reading this was — wow, women have come a long way in 50 years. I can’t imagine anything like this being published anywhere today. While some of the suggestions have real merit, others are … just wrong. Making yourself more attractive by learning to dance or play bridge? Being “less aggressive?” Wouldn’t the media have a field day with that one, given all the recent media attention given to Sheryl Sandberg (of “ban bossy” fame) and Jill Abramson.
I’ve had similar thoughts — about the improving plight of women — as I’ve read my current book selection, The Woman in White. It’s published in 1859, and is full of women at the mercy of men. There are so many scenes of fainting to the couch, retiring to one’s bed, being pretty much imprisoned at one estate or another because the husband took off with the horse and carriage (and the main character’s husband is working to get her mistaken for dead, but that’s a topic for next week’s book reviews). Those who complain about women’s rights today may have some merit, but considering the past we’ve come a long way, baby.
Can you be more attractive? Maybe. Today, how about paying a bit more attention to your personal grooming, perhaps? Me, I’m off to cultivate a more pleasing voice.