Michelle Obama: Not my American Idol

Michelle ObamaMichelle Obama.  She and I were born the same year.  We both came of age in the ’70s, in the Midwest.  She went to Ivy League Princeton; I  graduated Phi Beta Kappa, albeit from the less tony Indiana University.  We’re both moms of girls.

So why don’t I feel a sense of connection with her at all?

On a very basic level, politics play a role.  My conservative views and her liberal ones will never meet.  While she wrote her senior thesis on her feelings of inferiority as a black student at Princeton, I was working at the campus volunteer student bureau and playing piano for a local church.

She has clearly felt like a victim.  I haven’t.

She was first proud of her country at the age of 44, because that’s when she sensed people were “ready for change”.  I’ve been proud of my country ever since I can remember, even though I disagree strongly with the convictions of many in it.

She would like the federal government to provide universal healthcare.  I think that’s a recipe for cripplingly-high taxes  and a drop in service level.

She views weekends as “family time”, not to be interrupted by church services.  I wouldn’t miss attending a worship service and Sunday School with mine.

She vigorously defends women’s right to abortion.  I feel it’s important that my three daughters have all the rights we’re entitled to as Americans – both after AND before birth.

Despite our differences, Michelle and I agree on a few things.

We both are interested in raising our daughters to be the best people they can be.

We both would like to contribute all we can to this great nation.

It’s really not that complicated.

It’s the media I blame for the coverage of Michelle, so over-the-top that it’s alienating.  She’s bringing romance back to the White House.  She has the most lovely arms ever seen in first lady-dom.  She’s sparkly and new.  Come on!

I don’t blame Michelle for this – as an educated, professional woman, she’s most likely embarrassed by the excess.  I DO blame the supposedly-unbiased media.

To which I suggest:  lay off Michelle, already.  She is not the first woman (or even – gasp – first lady) with a “real body” and a “real marriage”.  Maybe you are just now discovering what “a real marriage between equals actually looks like”, but some of us have known all along.

Watching her doesn’t inspire me to be my best, any more than watching Laura Bush did.  And really?  That’s as it should be.  It’s not the first lady’s job to inspire me.  I can do that myself, and it’s demeaning to all women to suggest we’re sitting around waiting for a role model.

So Michelle?  Enjoy your lovely clothes and enjoy your girls.  Enjoy your causes and your White House years.  I am happy for you and respect your position, but I don’t need you as my idol.

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14 thoughts on “Michelle Obama: Not my American Idol

  1. MICHELLE IS THE POSTER CHILD FOR ABORTION RESULTS.

    SOMETIMES–NOT TOO OFTEN, ABSOLUTE GOODCOMES FROM ABSOLUTE EVIL.

    THINK WHAT A WONDERFUL COUNTRY THIS WOULD BE IF THE MOMMAS OF THE FOLLOWING HAD BEEN SLAVISH, AVID, DEDICATED, ENERGETIC BELIEVERS IN THE NATIONAL ORGANIZATION OF WOMEN’S BASIC TENET–ABORTIONS FOR ALL:

    BARNEY FRANK; CHRIS DODD; NANCY PELOSI; HARRY REID; JOE BIDEN; TIM GEITHNER; LEON PANETTA; RAHM EMANUEL; GOV. PATTERSON; GOVERNOR SPITZER’ THE ANOINTED ONE; REVEREND WRIGHT; CARL BERNANKE; ADOLPH HITLER; JOSEPH STALIN; SEAN PENN; ALEC BALDWIN; ADRIANNA HUFFINGTON; AND JOHN MURTHAGH. i WOULD INCLUDE MICHELLE OBAMA, BUT SHE HAS TWO OF THE MOST ADORABLE CHILDREN EVER , AND I’M A GREAT BELIEVER THAT “ACORNS DON’T FALL TOO FAR FROM THE TREE.” SO SHE MUST BE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT. AND SINCE CHILDREN ARE THE EVERLASTING SAVIORS OF THE WORLD–SHE MUST REALLY BE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT.

  2. MICHELLE IS THE POSTER CHILD FOR ABORTION RESULTS.

    SOMETIMES–NOT TOO OFTEN, ABSOLUTE GOODCOMES FROM ABSOLUTE EVIL.

    THINK WHAT A WONDERFUL COUNTRY THIS WOULD BE IF THE MOMMAS OF THE FOLLOWING HAD BEEN SLAVISH, AVID, DEDICATED, ENERGETIC BELIEVERS IN THE NATIONAL ORGANIZATION OF WOMEN’S BASIC TENET–ABORTIONS FOR ALL:

    BARNEY FRANK; CHRIS DODD; NANCY PELOSI; HARRY REID; JOE BIDEN; TIM GEITHNER; LEON PANETTA; RAHM EMANUEL; GOV. PATTERSON; GOVERNOR SPITZER’ THE ANOINTED ONE; REVEREND WRIGHT; CARL BERNANKE; ADOLPH HITLER; JOSEPH STALIN; SEAN PENN; ALEC BALDWIN; ADRIANNA HUFFINGTON; AND JOHN MURTHAGH. i WOULD INCLUDE MICHELLE OBAMA, BUT SHE HAS TWO OF THE MOST ADORABLE CHILDREN EVER , AND I’M A GREAT BELIEVER THAT “ACORNS DON’T FALL TOO FAR FROM THE TREE.” SO SHE MUST BE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT. AND SINCE CHILDREN ARE THE EVERLASTING SAVIORS OF THE WORLD–SHE MUST REALLY BE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT.

    OH YES, ADD ALAN GREENSPAN–THAT WRINKLED FACE OLD MAN WHO, LIKE THE ANOINTED ONE, NEVER HELD A REAL JOB IN HIS LIFE. AT LEAST A USED CAR SALESMAN DEALS IN REALITY GOODS–NOT ETHEREAL CONCEPTS GIVEN TO PEOPLE WHO LIVE IN DREAM WORLDS.

  3. Wow! A fellow IU alum! I graduated in 1984 and then got my Master’s from IU in ’89. Small World……

  4. Hi!
    Thanks for stopping by my site and leaving a comment! That is me in my banner when I was a naive, young thing. Now I’m a naive, old thing! lol!

    You go! That was an awesome blog and the line “we’re not waiting around for a role model” was excellent! I so agree with everything you said. Thanks!

    Nancy

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